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Tips on Disciplining Your 2 Year Old Toddler

If you ask your child to do something, such as "pick up that toy", and don't enforce it, you are teaching them that what you say or ask of them means nothing. If you ask them to do something you must enforce what you ask of them in a timely manner without nagging, asking over and over and then eventually just giving up and doing it yourself (because it's easier). If you don't intend to enforce it, don't ask them to do it. Children learn very early whether a parent really means what they say and whether they have to obey or not. So be careful and consider carefully what you request of your child and whether it is important enough to follow through on and discipline for if disobeyed.

Kaitlin
Sat, 14 Nov 2009 13:42:02 +0000

I agree with this article. The thing I would do is ask 2 times. If I have to ask a 3rd time then your gonna sit or stand in the corner. If my child still does not want to do what I ask. They will stand there (crying or not) until they do what I ask. They will NOT move unless it is to do what I asked. I am a big believer that we have become "too easy" on our children. No one remembers how it was when we grew up and we turned out ok.

Karla
Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:30:07 +0000

It is easy to lose your patience when a toddler at this age keeps saying no. However, it is really important to not lose your cool. Keep in control. Remember that discipline isn't the same as punishment. You are guiding your child into learning that if he or she does something wrong, there are certain consequences associated with his or her bad behavior.

Rosie Posey
Sun, 15 Nov 2009 03:10:15 +0000

I don't begin disciplining of my children until they are at least aged two. From birth to two years old, toddlers need to be told a firm 'no' when they go to do something that they should not. For example getting a chair to try and elevate themselves higher in the kitchen pantry. From fifteen months you can add a reason why they should not be doing whatever action they are doing.
From about four years of age I like to use the 1,2,3 method of discipline. My children know that when I get to three, which barely happens that there is going to be an angry mum on their tales. I think just the look of my face gets them to stop whatever behavior they are doing at the time.

varghese
Sun, 15 Nov 2009 06:58:17 +0000

In regards to disciplining toddlers, let alone any child you need to distinguish what is bad behavior and what is just normal child exploration.
There's no escaping it. At some point, if you're a mom to a toddler, you must face the inevitable tantrum in the supermarket, in the restaurant or wherever you'd least like it to happen. So rather than dreading the unavoidable, why not arm yourself with a plan for the next time your little darling turns into a little demon

varghese
Sun, 15 Nov 2009 07:00:56 +0000

In my experience, my children went through the "terrific" twos and THEN hit the "terrible" threes instead of the other way around. Having said that, disciplining a 2 year-old can be tricky and frustrating. A 2 year-old's vocabulary and ability to understand cause and effect is limited. Because of that, with my children, I've learned to be clear, firm, and quick with their discipline. Verbal warnings work (but they don't care about the explanation of why they can't do things yet...trust me, that comes later when all you hear for a year or so is a chorus of "whys"). Time out works, but they cannot be left there too long or they will forget what they are being disciplined for. With tantrums, I've found the best strategy is to ignore it as much as possible. If you're at home, this means step over them and leave the room (as long as they aren't in any danger of hurting themselves) without acknowledging it.

Patricia
Sun, 15 Nov 2009 12:42:47 +0000

I strongly agree with Karla: disciplining shouldn't be punishing. Childhood shouldn't be like in the military. A child who doesn't listen to what you tell him to do is often testing its limits, how far it can go. It wants to know your limits, and you do have to make them clear, but not by punishing. By understanding the mechanisms in the child's psyche the parent's behaviour will slightly change, from annoyance and punishment to disciplining the child in a helpful way. A child isn't out to frustrate you, it's testing what goes and what not. This has to be understood with a loving and open mind. It's not a fight to be won.

Maren
Mon, 16 Nov 2009 23:18:47 +0000

I've seen parents literally 'slapping the wrist' of their toddler. I like this for three reasons. One, it gets their attention (they almost always elicit a loud wail). Two, it shows clearly that their behavior is unacceptable. And three, the pain doesn't linger. Shouting at a youngster will ring in their ears long after the incident. A sharp spank has pain but it goes away a lot sooner.

ToughLuv
Tue, 17 Nov 2009 00:03:59 +0000

since 2 year old kids don't have so much understanding and knowledge parents should kindly explain them in each and every step. stick can be used at times, but often use of sticks irritates them. sometimes it makes them fear to do anything. the best way to bring them to discipline them is to pray for them and keep them in god's hand. positive talks and our good example also is very important.

ekrosalind
Fri, 20 Nov 2009 09:14:03 +0000

When I am near two year olds, such as my cousins or children that I babysit I find what works best is positive reinforcement without bribes and positive reinforcement with bribes. I will be the first to admit that my views would likely change if/when I decide to have or adopt children. I often do things in 'trade', things that are above what is regularity expected of them such as helping me mix cookie dough in return for the first cookie, or perhaps showing me where mommy keeps the forks and knives in exchange for choosing between three (predetermined) dinners. There is always the "clean up your toys and I'l let you stay up an extra five minutes" approach. But when it comes to discipline I mostly ignore the behavior to show that it will not receive attention. If that doesn't work, I will nonchalantly remove whatever distraction that is in the way until the positive behavior is returned. For example, if the television is a distraction to dinner, I will unplug the TV until dinner is done. I do not believe that spankings should be a regular punishment. In my opinion, physical harm should only be used in replace if physical harm. Examples, slapping a child's hand if they are reaching for the stove top (never mind that the back burners are used and handles turned away), or spanking a child for running out in the street. Much greater physical harm would come to them if they persisted in that behavior then getting the s*it Scared (not beaten, scared) out of them the first time.

Abi
Sat, 21 Nov 2009 06:57:32 +0000

with children one needs to have a lot of patience when it comes to ones disciplinary actions.Most of the times it becomes difficult to discipline them because they tend to manipulate parents actions.However they are at a tender age where thet want to do things for themselves and maybe help out parents.But parent just have to be firm with whatever disciplinary measures they chooose which does not include abusing the child.

sharon
Sat, 21 Nov 2009 16:39:48 +0000

I have a 2 time rule. If I ask my child to do something, like stop bitting, there is a price to pay. One of the ways is time out. This is a 10 minute time out on the stairs. He has to sit and think about what he has done and them say "I'm sorry to me or the person he bit. Supper time was always a problem, we sat down and talked about how he felt at supper time, and he said that there was too much food on his plate and he new he couldn't eat it all. So I give he smaller portions and let him ask for more is he feels he wants it. But the rule is that he eats everything on his plate.

latin4
Sun, 22 Nov 2009 03:05:45 +0000

Have a toddler is almost like having a puppy! You need to be firm and consistent with what is right and wrong and what they are actually allowed to do. It is important to be consistent in letting the toddler know what you are expecting of them.

Time outs can work, but again, it is so important to be consistent.

Certainly it is the perfect time to make sure your child grows up using behaviors that you would like for them. Apologizing for bad behavior is a great way to make sure they know what they did was wrong.

Rache
Sun, 22 Nov 2009 18:26:32 +0000

Remaining firm and strict in your attitude towards the child helps. I would not allow the child to see that they have got me upset while with their misbehavior or poor attitude because I think that would let them feel as if they are in control. Toddlers can be very stubborn; it is the adult's job to teach them that they are not in charge, that they must obey the same rules as their peers or older siblings.

Felicia
Wed, 25 Nov 2009 00:47:35 +0000

control ur two years toddler by explaining him where is he right and where wrong
you should not ask them to do things just becoz u are saying.
you should explain them the cos and pros of their every behaviour
Be firm and strict to their bad behaviour.if u did a wrong thing do apologize in front of the kids ,by this they will learn to apologize. Have patiance in listening to them and they will do they same.

needhi
Wed, 25 Nov 2009 12:14:02 +0000

Kids at the age of 2 are quick learners. They watch and do the same as we do. So, we should be very particular in doing the regular day work in a proper way. Kids also learn their speech at this age. Talk to them and make them understand by showing the things. Say them 'thank you' and appreciate everything they do and feel happy.

lak
Wed, 25 Nov 2009 18:19:44 +0000

The thing that a two year old child needs most is structure. Since the parent is the primary person around to provide structure, it is necessary that you demonstrate the structure in your life. A two year old will most likely misbehave if they think they can get away with their crimes. Because of this you need to be firm in your punishments always, or the child will not learn his lesson. His, because in my experience boys are worse at this age than girls. Although girls and drama may later in life be annoying.

Ace Ventura
Sat, 28 Nov 2009 07:08:11 +0000

Its a fun to play around a kid which is 2 year as the case may be, its not disciplining but its a worth of educating oneself while playing with 2 year old kid. As we know kids is equivalent to a god which has just come out to earth. Kids are harmless, naughty, sometimes their energy levels are more compared to that of a elders.Mother is the first teacher for any kid who nurtures/disciplines the kid. Discipline is too much for the kids to understand.

LAKSHMINARASIMA
Mon, 30 Nov 2009 05:55:17 +0000

Two year old kids are growing kids and the age is too early to start disciplining the kid. Kids will always be kids and most of the time they do not know what they are doing , they are exploring and learning to do things, instead of disciplining it is better to teach kids to do the right thing and this will always have a positive effect on the child.

Marcello Mario
Mon, 30 Nov 2009 13:18:55 +0000

kids are the gods gift to us in our life childrens do some wrongthings in absence of their mentality its childs nature at times we must be patient and want to guide the child in a correct way by saying the good disciplines in a sweet way if we tell anything sweetly child will accept the truth of our speech

reva
Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:11:30 +0000

HAVING A TODDLER CAN BE MOST DIFFICULT IF IT IS YOUR FIRST, BECAUSE YOU WOULD WANT TO SPOIL THEM AND GIVE THEM EVERYTHIN G YOU NEVER HAD. BUT DISCIPLINE IS A BIG PART THAT SHOULD BE TAKEN PLACE IN YOUR CHILD'S LIFE. YOUR CHILD CANNOT HAVE EVERYTHING THEY ASK FOR BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO LEARN TO OBEY. IF YOU ASK THEM TO DO SOMETHING ONCE AND THEY DON'T OBEY. DO NOT DO IT FOR THEM DISCIPLINE THEM BY HAVING THEM SIT IN A CORNER OR NOT WATCH THEIR FAVORITE CARTOONS. TELL THEM THEY HAVE TO DO WHAT THEY WERE ASKED TO DO BEFORE YOU CAN REWARD THEM.

anonymous
Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:15:08 +0000

I think the most important thing with disciplining children, especially toddlers, is consistency and follow-through. The rule has to be the same all the time, with both mom and dad. For example, staying with mom or dad while shopping. With my kids, if they didn't stay right by me, they went into the cart or the stroller, even if they threw a fit (that's what the seatbelts are for!). Their safety is more important than their independence. Especially when their behavior impacts other shoppers, by being in the way or disturbing store displays.

It's also important to keep things in perspective. Yes, your child should pick up their toys, you shouldn't do it for them. But a 2 year old doesn't neccessarily understand WHY he has to pick up, or where he should put things. He also will more than likely get distracted and start playing instead of picking up. That's why it's important to be ready to get down and help them. Sit with them, give them very specific tasks and praise them when the task is completed. Not just "Clean up your toys", but "Can you put these blocks in their bucket?" "Can you help me put the cars away?"

Valorie
Tue, 01 Dec 2009 00:59:16 +0000

I think the most important thing to keep in mind while disciplining your toddler is the patience and follow through.
You Should learn to say "NO" in a very polite and firm tone.
You should not talk or respond them in an angry manner.
You should maintain a loving and caring environment around him/her so that he/she wont feel alone.
One thing you should always keep in mind is to guide them how to do or what to do,never force them or scold them to do anything..always request or guide them in a polite manner.

Guri
Tue, 01 Dec 2009 09:44:36 +0000

at this particular age and stage of development kids is feeling more of need to assert her own will and independence.kids needs to know rules and limits. she can learn them without being punished or rewarded, spanked or shamed. she can be given more choices in her everyday life to make her feel more powerful and independent even asking her what color pants she wants to wear will make her feel more in charge.pick one or two target behaviors to focus your discipline on at a time, such as not playing with their food. it is usually more effective to completely train kids in one or two areas than to try to train them a little bit in many different areas.

ssr
Thu, 03 Dec 2009 15:08:06 +0000

How a parent disciplines their child sets the stage for either later problems or a child that is well behaved. At the tender age of 2 it is very difficult to rationalize with them. A parent must be calm and persistent. Don't give in and let the problem slide.
I don't object to some type of reward for doing small age appropriate tasks, such as picking up toys. Also it is important to make the child feel proud of the tasks he/she does well.

Susan
Fri, 04 Dec 2009 01:10:35 +0000

The Child is like Chicken easily pick up thing. So whenever you are communicating with children make sure your expression and communication good enough. Try to convenience them rather forcing them for any activities, like eating, playing,etc. You need to have good patience while dealing with them, Since if you are irritated ultimately child will get irritated by you.

anonymous
Sat, 05 Dec 2009 00:15:45 +0000

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